Has Your Partner Become Your Enemy?
How to Resolve Your Fights and Be In Love Again
The top five issues that couples argue about are money, sex, work, children, and housework. But even though couples may be arguing about money or sex, the core of these conflicts is typically about something entirely different. To resolve conflict and break the argument cycle, couples need to get to the root of the problem by revisiting their first argument or relationship disappointment, which is the beginning of the argument cycle. Then, by uncovering the core issue of their first argument by using Sharon’s 3-step First Argument Technique of peel, reveal, heal, couples will see that the root of their arguments is in their childhoods, and it’s the underlying reason for all the fights that follow, no matter what the fight is about.
Whenever your core childhood issue gets triggered, you want to fight, because you’ve been hurt just like when you were a child.
Understanding each other's core issue allows you to understand your partner, what triggers them, and what is hard for them. You can empathize with them and not take everything so personally. You can have compassion and build intimacy, rather than distrust and distance. You’ll finally learn how to stop arguing and how to break destructive and unending argument patterns, by using tools for effective argument resolution.
Good, lasting marriages are made up of two conscious individuals who have the desire to work on themselves, with the determination to address and resolve issues when they come up in their marriage. This quick, yet comprehensive must-read will give you the information you need to immediately start resolving your fights, with never-before-heard-of exercises and tools that will be all you need for future argument resolution. So if your partner has become your enemy, let Sharon M. Rivkin, family and marriage counselor in Santa Rosa, California, show you how to bring back the love into your relationship.